Relationship or Creationship?
Words have power.
Words hold a vibration and energy far greater than we typically think about. We know words communicate meaning, but how deeply do we delve into that meaning? And how often do we mindfully choose what words to be using instead of just picking the most familiar or commonly used?
One word that I’d like to bring into focus is the word relationship. We often toss this word around to describe so many things from our partnerships to our friendships or our experience of work. But what is really being conveyed when we use the word relationship?
Inherent in the word relationship is the description of two or more parties, objects, or structures. There is a separation between “I” and the person or thing that I am “relating” to. The relationship is born of bridging that chasm or separation. Thus, by using the word relationship, we create some sort of distance, tension, or distinction between ourselves and the other.
I am here and you are over there.
Tension or separation can be useful, for example: I don’t know who I am so seeing myself as separate is necessary as I individuate; you are behaving in some unhealthy ways so allowing and acknowledging tension is healthy; there are many things that matter to me so creating space between myself and my work is making this job sustainable. You may be experiencing a growth edge where seeing yourself as separate and distinct is the healthiest next right step. And, what happens when tension and separation outlast their usefulness? What happens when you are finding yourself creating distinctions and tension with your partner just to keep space there?
What can be created instead?
When the concept of a creationship was first introduced to us, by our beloved teacher Daniel Tuttle, I immediately knew he was onto something. Something that I still don’t have enough words for but I feel power, truth, light and freedom in. When two people, for example, are co-creating a life together - a life full of magic, wonder, awe, healing, expansion, and purpose - calling it a relationship may actually limit the possibilities.
No one else is doing this “to us.” We are the ones limiting our own possibilities. This ceiling on relationship consists of our subconscious beliefs and assumptions. Our subconscious is filled with what culture, television, and other people have told or modeled to us that a relationship is supposed to be.
What constitutes a creationship?
Anything you want it to be - it is infinite, limitless, and boundless just like you! My personal definition is a creationship is a coming together of like-hearted, like-minded, like-spirited people actively engaged in aligning to their soul’s calling and the truest version of themselves. People who are living freely, bravely, and honestly about who they are and who their co-creator is from a place of soul-truth.
What does it take to uplevel your relationships to creationships?
Of course, like all things on this path, your powerful intention will get the ball rolling. The universe is always on your side, bringing you the exact experiences that you need to learn, grow, shed, and expand into being the one who is in alignment with your biggest, wildest intentions. For literally years before I met Trace, I kept writing in my journal my intention and desire to experience “sacred partnership.” I had experienced enough “Not This!” (shout-out to my podcast) to know that my next relationship would be upleveled to something I could only imagine and dream of. That my partner and I would be creating work together and that our lives would seamlessly flow. This, of course, doesn’t mean that we don’t have work to do - of course we do, we’re on spiritual journeys! But it does mean that every step of the way we are owning the truth that life is happening “for us, not to us.” When we translate this energy into who we are in the world - BOOM - you have creationship!
What areas of your life are ready to be upleveled into creationship?
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